Dr. Davis posted a thought proving message at his LinkedIn Profile about the dilemma faced by adult children who want the best for their aging parents, and the aging parents who want the best for their children and grandchildren. He describes this dilemma as one in which there are "No Win Decisions"
"As the older generation continues to get older, and as younger generations continue to get squeezed in all kinds of ways, decisions will have to be made that won’t make anyone feel happy. Older people will find that their children simply cannot afford to take care of them. Assisted Living facilities or nursing homes will become the default answer for a lot of families, and that’s an extremely painful decision for all involved. All people in this country are being forced to choose priorities that are impossible. Do you want to spend your money and time on your children or on your parents? Who needs you the most? Should you go to work or visit your parents or stay home with the kids?
The discomfort that everyone is facing in our culture is unfortunate and immensely sad."
"We need to talk about this Dr. Mikol adds firmly believe that life doesn’t have to be this way. There has to be another way. There has to be a way to let people stay in their homes yet also get the care they need. There has to be a way to provide for the older generation while the younger generation grows. There has to be a way to afford both food and medicine."
Dr. Mikol Davis is a family conflict specialist and an elder care psychologist with 35 years of experience as a mental health care provider. He has a special interest in aging issues, particularly assessing elders' capacity for making decisions. He has a particular expertise in depression and anxiety. He is a mediator of elder and family conflicts. Together with his wife, nurse-attorney Carolyn Rosenblatt, he is a founder of AgingParents.com, which provides services and resources to those who are caring for aging loved ones
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